No matter how excited everyone is about the puppy’s arrival, keep their homecoming low-key. It’s so easy to everyone to want to shower the new dog with affection, particularly the younger members of the family.
While the new pup is getting used to its surroundings, always supervise excited children and give your dog some much-needed time out from all the excitement - and the opportunity to sleep peacefully whenever they want to. A puppy of this age will need to sleep for upwards of 20 hours a day so can go from active to asleep in seconds!
On your first day with a new puppy, start off by having them in one room and let them explore in their own time discovering the scents, sights and sounds of this new world. Allow your puppy to settle in gradually and in their own time. This is far better than overwhelming them with enthusiastic games, cuddles and plays while they are still trying to find their paws.
Make things familiar for the new puppy
Your new puppy is still a tiny baby. Up until now, their whole life has been spent in one place, a comfortable environment, close to their mother and with their littermates for company.
All the sounds, sights, and smells that were once familiar are gone. This is why trying and making things feel familiar right from your puppy’s first day home is so important. Bringing a piece of veterinary bedding or a blanket back from the breeder that smells of the puppy’s mum and littermates can be comforting and provide them with a touch of home.
Allow the puppy to dictate the pace of your interactions
When bringing a puppy home, understand that some puppies might be super-friendly and enthusiastic and want to climb all over you, others may start off more standoffish and prefer to get to know you more slowly.
During the first day, let them decide how much contact they want from you and the rest of the family. Don’t chase your puppy around, and absolutely no grabbing or holding them – especially if they want to move away from you. You want your pup to begin their life with you the way you want them to go on – trusting you, trusting your hands, and trusting everyone in the family
Sit on the floor with them, allowing them to dictate the pace of your interactions.
Create rules for your puppy’s first day at home
Before bringing your puppy home it’s useful to agree on a list of house rules with your family. It’s important that each member of the family is consistent with the puppy from day one.. As an example, a puppy will get easily confused if they are allowed on furniture by one member of the family but not by another.
And while it might seem cute in a baby, you don’t want your puppy to do things now that you are not going to want them to do as an adult. Give them bits of food from the table once and expect to be pestered at every mealtime! Or let them jump up now and expect that to continue when they are older.
There are also some rules to establish for the human members of the family. Puppies all need to chew to develop their teeth and jaws – plus it is enjoyable for them (which is why you need to give them appropriate things of their own to gnaw at). They have no idea what is ‘theirs’ and what is yours – and they explore the world with their mouths, so you’re asking for trouble if you leave an expensive pair of trainers within their reach!
First-day planning and preparation
Household Management:
There are a few things you need to know to be more prepared to bring a puppy home for the first time. Read our planning tips below:
- Plan time off work/chores/errands/trips out – a puppy can’t be left alone for long enough for you to do shopping or other key chores for some considerable time, so organise deliveries, assign tasks to other people, set everything up so that at least one adult will be home at any given time.
- Tidy up – and go around all the rooms your puppy will be loose in, at puppy level, protecting wires, taping or tacking down loose carpet edges, and putting away expensive tasselled rugs or wobbly vases. Puppies explore with their mouths, if it’s in reach, it’s going to be chewed! This isn’t your puppy being bad or destructive – it is their natural behaviour and how they find out about their new environment.
- Room dividers – it’s important your puppy is in the same room as you all the time to start with, but you may need to do tasks without a puppy underfoot.
- Room dividers or a versatile puppy pen will mean your puppy is safe, but you can fence yourself in around the computer desk, or fence them away from the ironing board or other hazards easily!
- Check the garden – a whole garden may be too big an area for your puppy to feel safe in, or it may offer so much distraction your puppy forgets to toilet out there. A puppy pen set up immediately outside your back door will provide a small area for them to toilet in, and then you can let them out to play and explore once they’ve done what they need to do!
- Fence off or cover any dangerous garden substrates or plants – it will take a long time to teach your puppy not to chew poisonous plants or eat that decorative gravel, so cover it up or fence it off so it is never an option in the first place. Find out more about how you can puppy-proof your garden with our helpful guide.
Keep reviewing the above list as your puppy grows, the things they can reach and the items they’re interested in will change as they get older, braver, and more confident!
Human Management:
- While you will want to show off your new arrival, do not invite visitors to meet the puppy for the first week. Let your puppy become familiar with you, anyone who will be providing care, and your home, and give yourself a chance to learn your puppy’s ‘language’. This may be subtle to start with, and other people around you will be less attentive and can miss signs that they need the toilet or are hungry or sleepy very easily.
- Sit on the floor – instead of towering over your puppy or sitting up on the sofa where they can’t see your face, sit on the floor and play at their level. This will help prevent jumping up from becoming a habit - as they won’t need to do it to interact with you and to get close to your face (which they naturally want to do).
- Your puppy should be curious about the new environment, but if they are not, or if they seem actively scared – let them do whatever it is they need to do to feel comfy and secure. If that’s cuddling up inside your top or in your lap, so be it. Forget rules… Always think “How are you feeling – and how can I make you feel better?”
- Don’t lure your puppy towards things or people they’re worried about. They need to learn that they’re not something to be scared of in their own time. Instead, use food (or toys if they have a favourite) to pair with them. So when they simply see ‘the thing’, you can toss food past them so they’re rewarded for moving away from the scary thing. This makes them feel much safer than being lured closer in to ‘face their fears’ (which just makes them worse), and instead helps build a positive association.
- Don’t bend over/swoop down/grab your puppy – even large breeds are fairly ‘pickup-able’ when very young, but suddenly whooshing them up off the ground is startling for them at best and potentially painful and frightening. We can teach them to be lifted on cue later on, for now, ensure you have their attention, kneel down and encourage them to you before picking them up once they’re close to your body.
- Be prepared to pair every event or new experience with something positive – typically food reinforcers like cheese, cheese spread, chicken, and liver cake – soft, tasty, and easy to eat quickly. Puppies do not build positive associations in their minds without the addition of something actively enjoyable - that an experience ‘wasn’t awful’ is not sufficient!
- Prepare children for the reality of a puppy – they do nibble and bite, they won’t understand the child, they will take time to become a child’s best friend, they’re not a toy and they are easily scared and easily hurt.
- Expect your puppy to need to sleep in the same room as you for some considerable time to come – whilst some puppies may appear confident when alone, this is unlikely to be permanent, and avoiding distress is paramount. Read our article on puppy sleeping arrangements for helpful tips on making your puppy more comfortable during the night.
- Don’t be afraid to remove your puppy from a situation that is frightening or scary for them, even if this appears rude to someone else. There is no benefit in your puppy being scared by your neighbour, your best friend or even your vet!
Don’t worry if they are a bit wary on their first day
Don’t expect your puppy to come through the door confident and playful. They may do, but far more likely they will be tentative, wary and uncertain as they try to discover what the next phase of their life is going to bring.
On your first day with a new puppy, it’s important to remember that everything has changed for them. Their new life may seem strange, different and potentially scary.
You know that your puppy has ‘come home’, that you will love your new dog and give them everything you can to keep them happy and healthy but right now, your puppy doesn’t know that.
Be patient and give them time to feel safe - and your puppy will settle in much faster.
First interactions between children and the puppy
When bringing your puppy home, ensure children understand how to handle the new puppy with care and respect.
The arrival of a puppy is a really exciting thing – but clinging on to the new arrival or playing rough games can make the puppy worried or fearful.
As the puppy begins to grow up, this respect and thoughtful handling should continue from all the family. You want your dog to grow up wanting to be close to you and be touched by you, and feel happy and safe around all members of the family, so set clear rules for everyone early on.
Please read our guide to introducing puppies and children for more tips.
Spend as much time together as possible on your puppy’s first week’s at home
Bringing a puppy home means dedicating time to your new arrival to help them acclimate to their new surroundings and establish an everyday routine. Working from home or booking a few days of holiday will allow you to spend important quality time with your new pet.
This is especially important in early weeks of life when puppies learn about the world around them, what people are like and who to trust.
Make sure you are there to guide them every step of the way.
Once your puppy feels secure in their new life, they will probably, with training, be able to be left on their own but to start with, they need your company and presence to help them find their feet in this strange new world.
If you find that you are not able to spend as much time with your puppy as you need to, you can start to consider dog walkers, daycare – or just other family member to help you.
Sometimes, your dog may find your absence difficult to deal with. As an owner, you can better understand how your dog may be feeling when they are left alone. Read more about puppy separation anxiety and how you can help your dog feel more comfortable for those times when you’re not around.
It doesn’t take much to make a puppy feel secure and happy in their new life. But by just taking a step back from the excitement of bringing a new puppy home and realising that for them their whole world has changed and everything is unfamiliar, you can make their homecoming the fun and wonderful event that you want it to be.
All you’ll have to do now is enjoy getting to know each other, playing, training, socialising, having fun and watching your pup grow up to be your best friend!
We hope this article on the first day with your puppy was helpful and prepared you! Next, read about our top tips on introducing your new puppy to other dogs and pets to help your training progress to the next stages.